Found out from my big sis yesterday my dad is exhibiting signs of dementia. At 84 and totally isolated for the past five years, that’s not surprising. His mother passed away from Alzheimer’s a week shy of age 95.
When I hear about this, I feel the empathy I would feel for any older person going through this, but not having seen or spoken to him in over a decade, I feel oddly removed. I also feel sorry for my sister carrying this weight.
Sigh. Getting older.
I can completely empathise with you. I heard from my son that my mother is showing signs of dementia. She's 76 but we haven't spoken for 14 years. I'm aware that people may judge me but I'm annoyed that she may forget what she did to me
Found out from my big sis yesterday my dad is exhibiting signs of dementia. At 84 and totally isolated for the past five years, that’s not surprising. His mother passed away from Alzheimer’s a week shy of age 95.
When I hear about this, I feel the empathy I would feel for any older person going through this, but not having seen or spoken to him in over a decade, I feel oddly removed. I also feel sorry for my sister carrying this weight.
Sigh. Getting older.
I can completely empathise with you. I heard from my son that my mother is showing signs of dementia. She's 76 but we haven't spoken for 14 years. I'm aware that people may judge me but I'm annoyed that she may forget what she did to me
Thanks so much for sharing this, sandgrounder. It helps to know other people can relate, and I know many can about dementia and aging parents, but our situations sound quite similar.
You'll certainly get no judgment from me. It's not an easy decision to be estranged and once you make the decision, it's not like it feels final (at least for me). I often wonder, "If he really loses touch with reality, could I visit him since he wouldn't have any idea who I am?" But I'm also not convinced I have any desire to do that.
I'm wishing you peace as you deal with this, knowing it is often a long road.
I can completely empathise with you. I heard from my son that my mother is showing signs of dementia. She's 76 but we haven't spoken for 14 years. I'm aware that people may judge me but I'm annoyed that she may forget what she did to me
Thanks so much for sharing this, sandgrounder . It helps to know other people can relate, and I know many can about dementia and aging parents, but our situations sound quite similar.
You'll certainly get no judgment from me. It's not an easy decision to be estranged and once you make the decision, it's not like it feels final (at least for me). I often wonder, "If he really loses touch with reality, could I visit him since he wouldn't have any idea who I am?" But I'm also not convinced I have any desire to do that.
I'm wishing you peace as you deal with this, knowing it is often a long road.
I've already been through the mourning process with my mother. I'm not saying that she's "dead to me" but she has not paid a part in my life for such a long time now. I did offer a hand of reconciliation about 8 years ago when my son was ill, but it was similar to meeting an old schoolfriend who you no longer have any common bond with. In my head I said goodbye to her for a second time after that meetng. I don't want to say goodbye for a third or fourth time
Enjoy! And don’t get eaten by wildlife! That is beautiful.
ETA: looking at that land formation it’s so cool to be able to see so clearly how the land broke apart there. It kind of looks like a uvula (back of throat).
Enjoy! And don’t get eaten by wildlife! That is beautiful.
ETA: looking at that land formation it’s so cool to be able to see so clearly how the land broke apart there. It kind of looks like a uvula (back of throat).
Hahaha the worst wildlife there is probably blackbird or rabbit, so it would took them really long time to eat me whole. It's very close to near villages and towns, and it's about 20 km from Prague 😅
Enjoy! And don’t get eaten by wildlife! That is beautiful.
ETA: looking at that land formation it’s so cool to be able to see so clearly how the land broke apart there. It kind of looks like a uvula (back of throat).
Hahaha the worst wildlife there is probably blackbird or rabbit, so it would took them really long time to eat me whole. It's very close to near villages and towns, and it's about 20 km from Prague 😅
Beware of rabbits, never forget it!
But I don't see And I don't feel But tightly hold up silently My hands before my fading eyes And in my eyes Your smile
I mistook stars reflected in a pond at night for those in the sky.
I've spent my Sunday in pyjamas, watched yesterday's Cure show, one movie and slept for 11 hours. I'm trying to convince myself that it's been good for me.
My colleague at work had his birthday today. He is two years younger than me. He kept saying all day long that he hated that day.
When I was driving back home with my other colleague, a lad 20 years younger than me, he said: "I need to ask you one thing. Why do older people, no offence, dislike so much their birthday?"
I think I should lie down and die.
But I don't see And I don't feel But tightly hold up silently My hands before my fading eyes And in my eyes Your smile
I mistook stars reflected in a pond at night for those in the sky.
I've spent my Sunday in pyjamas, watched yesterday's Cure show, one movie and slept for 11 hours. I'm trying to convince myself that it's been good for me.
I too spent my Monday in my pjs, and my Tuesday, and possibly will be doing the same for my Wednesday. Not by choice. Sometimes, your body just tells you to stop. I'm just grateful it waited until AFTER Cruel World and The Cure to be sick.
I've spent my Sunday in pyjamas, watched yesterday's Cure show, one movie and slept for 11 hours. I'm trying to convince myself that it's been good for me.
I too spent my Monday in my pjs, and my Tuesday, and possibly will be doing the same for my Wednesday. Not by choice. Sometimes, your body just tells you to stop. I'm just grateful it waited until AFTER Cruel World and The Cure to be sick.
Yesterday I went to Queens to meet up with this friend I posted about who had thanked me recently out of the blue for giving her a tape of TC in high school. We haven't seen each other or been in contact for about 33 years.
We first went to the Noguchi Museum, which was amazing. She is an architect, so she really likes looking at all the stone he used in his sculptures. Here is a rather poor picture I took of a piece I liked. For some reason it reminded me of steve's new house.
Then we went to Telly's Taverna (our waitress was terrible, the food was great) for delicious Greek food and sat outside in the perfect weather and ate a whole fish while catching up on several decades. She told me her parents had moved from DC back to Iran after she and her sister finished college. I was horrified to hear that the government there had her father thrown in jail for "political reasons" for three years when he was in his late 70's. Amazingly, he is in pretty good health now in his 80's, despite that. It was a reality check for me to hear that.
She is going to buy my extra ticket (I'm only charging her $400 - just kidding!) for the first night of the MSG shows. She has never seen TC live before... I'm so glad to have reconnected with her.
Not my day, but my week. It has been fantastic, full of brilliant shows.
Began with Goat Girl, Los Bitchos, Black Country New Road and Black Midi in a small venue last monday. They all were wonderful, specially BCNR and above all Black Midi. BM deliver insanely demented frentic shows, amazing band. I love them.
I went on wednesday to see Come on a tiny Madrid venue with just 80 people capacity. Thalia Zedek and the band were tight and powerful. Loved the gig. They were supposed to play that day at Primavera Sound, but it was cancelled due to bad weather conditions.
Finally, yesterday attended the last night of Primavera Sound to see Shellac once again, wich never disappoints. They are a legend. Then, St. Vincent, a band I’m not familiar with. It was ok, but wasn’t impressed. And finally, Jockstrap, another new band I love. They were brilliant.
So, no complaints around here. Lovely week.
And next Thursday will flight to Manchester to see my beloved Mars Volta. I’m very happy about it.
Not my day, but my week. It has been fantastic, full of brilliant shows.
Began with Goat Girl, Los Bitchos, Black Country New Road and Black Midi in a small venue last monday. They all were wonderful, specially BCNR and above all Black Midi. BM deliver insanely demented frentic shows, amazing band. I love them.
I went on wednesday to see Come on a tiny Madrid venue with just 80 people capacity. Thalia Zedek and the band were tight and powerful. Loved the gig. They were supposed to play that day at Primavera Sound, but it was cancelled due to bad weather conditions.
Finally, yesterday attended the last night of Primavera Sound to see Shellac once again, wich never disappoints. They are a legend. Then, St. Vincent, a band I’m not familiar with. It was ok, but wasn’t impressed. And finally, Jockstrap, another new band I love. They were brilliant.
So, no complaints around here. Lovely week.
And next Thursday will flight to Manchester to see my beloved Mars Volta. I’m very happy about it.
Wow! You’re incredibly busy! So much capturing life going on there. Safe travels!
Not my day, but my week. It has been fantastic, full of brilliant shows.
Began with Goat Girl, Los Bitchos, Black Country New Road and Black Midi in a small venue last monday. They all were wonderful, specially BCNR and above all Black Midi. BM deliver insanely demented frentic shows, amazing band. I love them.
I went on wednesday to see Come on a tiny Madrid venue with just 80 people capacity. Thalia Zedek and the band were tight and powerful. Loved the gig. They were supposed to play that day at Primavera Sound, but it was cancelled due to bad weather conditions.
Finally, yesterday attended the last night of Primavera Sound to see Shellac once again, wich never disappoints. They are a legend. Then, St. Vincent, a band I’m not familiar with. It was ok, but wasn’t impressed. And finally, Jockstrap, another new band I love. They were brilliant.
So, no complaints around here. Lovely week.
And next Thursday will flight to Manchester to see my beloved Mars Volta. I’m very happy about it.
Wow! You’re incredibly busy! So much capturing life going on there. Safe travels!
Thanks!
wish my life was like this all the time, but it is not. Just got lucky this week with so many bands playing around.